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29 Lessons I Learned in My Twenties

29 Lessons I Learned in My Twenties

Yesterday was my last day in my twenties. As strange as it seems to let go of this decade (already?!), I am looking forward to my thirties and what the future holds. This has been a wonderful, frustrating, identity shaping, and tear-jerker of a decade. As I approach thirty, I’m choosing to believe the best is yet to come. Looking back, here are some of the most important lessons I learned in my twenties. 1. You have issues. Start dealing with them. We all have wounds from childhood and past relationships. The sooner you admit this and start working towards healing and wholeness, the ... Read More »

This is My Story

This is My Story

This is the first time I have attempted to tell my story in one sitting. While I tell you bits and pieces on a regular basis, I have never attempted to structure it and make it fit into something less than a ten minute telling. I love narrative. I love details, understanding a character’s motivation, and a good story arc. I love the conflict and the triumph. I am also personally far more comfortable with thoughtfully chosen written words than grasping the right ones as they are rolling off my tongue. Last fall I attended both the Storyline Conference and ... Read More »

When You Don’t Marry Your Soul Mate

“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.” – Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love Most of us have a list of qualities we want in a mate. Things like: … makes me laugh. … enjoys being active. … wants children someday. We tend to focus on what we think would best compliment us, our lifestyle, and our values. We want ... Read More »

Waiting and Dating: Thoughts on Singleness

One of the things this season of life is teaching me is how to better empathize with others. I realized recently that many of my single friends are likely experiencing a version of what I am now – this longing for a season of life that has not yet happened. Maybe, like me, you face daily reminders that you are not where you want to be – they show up multiple times a day, reminding you that you are behind. You feel like there are massive roadblocks keeping you from a role you were meant to play. You feel silly ... Read More »

Dating for Real: the Second Time Around

The first time we dated, I repeatedly told Nick I would not be his girlfriend “until I had peace about it.” What that looked like and felt like, I had no idea. I spent our dates and weekends together in a state of utter panic and constant comparison to my last relationship. I would run off pros and cons list in my head, keeping track of all the elements he was missing that didn’t measure up to my expectations. Sometimes it felt like I was on the verge of a panic attack because the accusing voices in my head refused ... Read More »

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