You Are Not Your Status

You Are Not Your Status

Recently, there have been a slew of pregnancy announcements in my social circle and newsfeed. When I hear these announcements, sometimes I find that I can’t control my visceral reactions, despite my deep love for my friends. Self-doubt jumps out from the shadows and begins its barrage of accusatory questions. Why her, now? Why not me? I keep getting passed by people who are younger or who have been married for far less time. How is this fair? Why can’t I have the one thing I want so badly and have worked so hard to achieve? I can start to ... Read More »

The Truth About 2016

The Truth About 2016

So it’s been a year. And it has BEEN A YEAR, if ya know what I mean.  I took a full year off from the blogging game, for reasons I still can’t quite articulate. I didn’t set out at the start of 2016 to deliberately ignore my corner of the internet, it just happened. Last December, I started a new copywriting job that was an absolute blessing and so much fun. My boss is fantastic, my hours are solidly nine to five, but flexible because I am a contractor. I have worked on a variety of projects, put some new creative ... Read More »

A Letter To My Former Self: 2015 Edition

A Letter To My Former Self: 2015 Edition

Dearest 29 and 30 year old Erika, You set one intention beyond all others last year, and that was to practice presence. You came out of 2014 emotionally bruised and battered and exhausted by all the expectations you had for the year that refused to come to fruition. You felt your way through the start of the year tentatively, war-torn and bleary eyed, but determined to focus not just on the big stuff, but be proud of how you showed up for your everyday life. 2015 was slow and steady. At times it seemed uneventful and you were kind of ... Read More »

The Long Game of Following Your Dreams

The Long Game of Following Your Dreams

Over the past year, I slowly laid down the dreams and timelines I once carried so tightly. I told you how I had carefully laid plans, and but how I was learning to let them go. As I made peace with the idea that I was not in control of certain areas of my life, I started to reconsider the things I did have some control over. I asked myself what the next right thing was instead of revising my five year plan. You may have noticed things have gotten a bit quieter around the blog this fall, and in part ... Read More »

We NEED to Catch Up Soon!

We NEED to Catch Up Soon!

“We need to catch up soon.” This is the refrain of the harried New Yorker, and of most of my twenty and thirty-something friends. A few weeks ago, The Atlantic published an article about this very thing, and since then I have been pondering the state of my adult friendships. I am a friend collector – the kind of person who maintains a few friendships from each stage of life: childhood, high school, college, and former cities where I lived. Social media allows me to have a touch point with many of these people, and most of these friends are the ... Read More »

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